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Tennis Top Ten Secrets for Success

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Secret Number One: Self-Acceptance

The toughest thing is to look in the mirror and accept yourself.” – Frank Giampaolo

In the world of high-performance tennis, the first and perhaps most crucial hidden skill is self-acceptance. It’s the ability to embrace who you are, flaws and all, and to understand that true success begins with an honest assessment of oneself.

The top ATP and WTA stars, the ones we admire and watch on the biggest stages, are imperfect. They don’t possess superhero abilities, nor are they devoid of weaknesses. Instead, they possess a unique understanding of themselves—both their strengths and their limitations. They’ve learned to develop their tennis identity, which allows them to leverage their strengths while working to improve their weaknesses.

In a world that encourages imitation, these champions don’t waste time and energy training to be someone they’re not. They focus, instead, on becoming the best version of themselves. They understand that authenticity is their greatest asset.

So, what does self-acceptance in tennis truly mean? It starts with recognizing your understanding of how your personality and body type shape your style of play. You don’t have to fit in others’ mold; you can create your path to success by being unapologetically yourself—faults and all.

The impact of honest self-acceptance goes beyond just self-assurance. It directly influences your style of play on the court. You’re more likely to play confidently in tournament competition when you embrace who you are and accept your superpowers and limitations.

Consider, for a moment, the various playing styles in tennis: the power hitter, the steady retriever, and the all-court player. Each style is a product of an individual’s unique qualities and abilities. When you truly accept yourself, you can better understand which playing style suits you best and how to optimize it. Start by asking yourself, are you a grinder or disruptor?

Let’s be clear: self-acceptance is not about complacency. It’s not an excuse to ignore areas that need improvement. Instead, it’s a foundation for building your tennis career. By acknowledging your weaknesses, you can work strategically to enhance them, turning them into strengths over time.

While fundamentals are essential, competition is not just about hitting the ball cleanly; it’s also about the battle within yourself. Self-acceptance is your armor in that battle—a powerful tool that can shape your destiny in the world of high-performance tennis.

Industry Professional Quotes

“Frank Giampaolo has written a sacred text for maximizing athletic potential.”

Jon Wertheim, Editor Sports Illustrated, Author, Tennis Channel, 60 Minutes

As a parent of a former high school and college student-athlete, I know the importance of dealing with stress and anxiety.  This is especially true for parents who are navigating this journey for the first time without any roadmap.  This Psychology of Tennis Parenting by Frank Giampaolo is a must-read for student-athletes and their parents having to cope with the pressures of taking their game to the next level. 

Dan Santorum, PTR, President & CEO

“This is an impressive and hard-hitting book. As a clinical psychologist, I strongly recommend it to any parent who wants to help a child reach peak performance. Giampaolo is a celebrated and sought-after tennis coach who understands what works and what doesn’t. Each chapter is power-packed and filled with sound advice on how to maximize performance. There’s no psychobabble here, only what makes practical on-the-court sense. Don’t just buy it. Study and apply its principles as you encourage your child toward athletic excellence.”

Clinton W. McLemore, Ph.D., Founder, Clinician’s Research Digest, Author, Inspiring Trust: Strategies for Effective Leadership, APA Award for Outstanding Contributions to Professional Development in Psychology, California

“Frank Giampaolo has done it yet again. I have had the pleasure of reading most of his 10 great books, but “The Psychology of Tennis Parenting” is his best and most relevant publication to date! He absolutely nails it when addressing one of the most important challenges facing youth sports today – that of the role of the parent in the development of the athlete.

Frank understands the importance of the role the parent can play in this development. We all want the best for our children, but often our good intentions produce less than desirable results. This is the main reason that 70% of our youth leaves their sport by the time they reach high school, and tennis is no exception.

The vast experience Frank has gained working with athletes of all abilities and with their parents has given him valuable insight into specific and positive ways to address the challenges of competition. Parents of successful athletes play a critical role in their child’s development and in their ability to thrive under pressure, both on and off the court. This extremely well-written book provides a tangible and indispensable road map for all – the athlete, the parent and the coach. It feels good that information is presented in a positive manner we can all take to heart without feeling we are being talked down to. In fact, it is a “must read!”

Thank you, Frank Giampaolo, for this incredible contribution!

Dick Gould, Emeritus: Men’s Tennis Coach; Director of Tennis Stanford University (1966-2018), California

“Frank continues to create tools for tennis players and families to help navigate the pathways of development. This book offers invaluable knowledge to help players & parents navigate the emotional aspects of the competitive environment in a healthy and productive way. A must read,

Bravo Frank.”

Paul Annacone, Former Top 40 ATP, Coach of Taylor Fritz, Roger Federer, Pete Sampras

As a former top ATP Touring professional, now the father of two budding competitive tennis players, me and my wife go through all the same junior “pitfalls” as all the other parents. No matter that I was top 10 in the world and my wife played D-1 tennis at Virginia Tech, this junior tennis world is full of “derailment points “none more devastating to a junior tennis player than parents doing the wrong thing. Franks writing is unapologetic and straight to the point.  He’s got the guts to share what coaches and parents should be teaching around the world. In this practical master work, Frank showcases common problems and provides clear and practical solutions that every parent and coach needs to apply on a daily basis.” 

Johan Kriek, ATP, Multiple Grand Slam Champion Florida 

Tennis and Long Term Development

The following is an excerpt from Frank upcoming playbook series.

Phase I: Long-Term Development

Setting the foundation for long-term goals is the starting point in managing your development. Long-term planning lays the foundation for reaching ambitious goals and involves a consistent, dedicated commitment.

“If your outcome goals aren’t being reached, don’t adjust the goals; adjust the plan by preparing for pressure more effectively.”

1 The Importance of Weekly Schedules

Long-term development is not a hasty process; it requires careful planning and adherence to stacking momentum throughout your structured weekly schedules. These schedules encompass a comprehensive range of physical, mental, and emotional components to build a robust tennis foundation.

2 Tennis-Specific Off-Court Athleticism

Beyond the tennis court lies the realm of off-court athleticism. This important athletic component is often overlooked in building a well-rounded competitor. Customized fitness routines, strength training, agility drills, and endurance exercises should be designed to enhance overall athletic performance.

3 Primary and Secondary Strokes Development

A comprehensive understanding of strokes and their effective execution is pivotal for long-term success. Plan to hone primary and secondary strokes and perfect techniques to achieve consistency and precision during tournaments. 

4 Pattern Development and Practice Matches

Understanding your tennis identity will help you devise your patterns and strategies to form your chessboard of tennis. You’ll develop the art of pattern play to expose your unique strengths- emphasizing the significance of intelligent shot selection and strategic planning. Practice matches become an invaluable tool for players to test their skills in real-time and gain valuable match experience.

5 Match Play Video Analysis

The use of technology as a learning aid becomes evident as players analyze match-play videos. Video analysis offers invaluable insights into strengths and weaknesses in competitive skills, including self-awareness, opponent profiling, and score management.

6 Embracing Patience and Perseverance

Long-term development requires patience and perseverance. It’s a process filled with both achievements and setbacks. Wins and losses. Each experience contributes to the development of the hardware and software tool belt needed at the higher levels.

7 Cultivating a Growth Mindset

Throughout your long-term development, cultivating a growth mindset is essential. With this optimistic approach, you’ll learn to embrace challenges, view losses as opportunities for learning, and constantly seek self-improvement.

As you navigate Phase I of your developmental cycle, you’ll begin to witness the fruits of your labor. The mental skills and discipline established during this long-term phase lay the groundwork for the subsequent stages of improvement. By understanding the significance of long-term development and embracing the process with dedication, you’ll find yourself on a trajectory toward excellence. 

Opponent Profiling- Connecting the Dots

The following is an excerpt from Frank upcoming playbook series.

CONNECTING THE DOTS

Max: “As soon as I stretch someone wide and spot them slicing, I know they’re vulnerable, so I move inside the court to steal a volley off their weak reply.”

The skill of opponent profiling is analyzing your adversary’s game to gain a strategic advantage. Let’s explore the profound benefits of reading the opponent and how it can enhance your decision-making skills in competition.

1.1 Understanding the Advantages

Understanding their skill sets enables you to exploit weaknesses and capitalize on opportunities. Knowing how to disrupt their game and not allowing them to play their favorite patterns is something to consider.

1.2 Connecting the Dots

The match slides in your favor once you connect the dots and learn to counteract their favorite plays. By reading the opponent, you anticipate their moves, hesitate less and cover the court quicker.

1.3 Analyzing Matches

Staying at the tournament site after losses to rehearse profiling the top seeds improves your software skills—plan on charting the other top players. A wide variety of charts are available to assist you in discovering why they’re still in the event and you’re spectating. See THE MATCH CHART COLLECTION by Frank Giampaolo on Amazon.

1.4 Exploiting Tendencies on Big Points

Identifying their preferred shots enables you to anticipate them in big points. Smart opponents do what they do best on game points. By predicting their go-to patterns, you’ll shut them down and make them beat you without their primary weapons.

1.5 Psychological Advantage

Psychological warfare impacts the emotions of your opponent. Opponent profiling helps disrupt your adversary’s focus, inner belief, and confidence. It’s your job to destroy their hope in battle.

1.6 Adaptability and Flexibility

Paying attention allows you to adapt and counter your opponent’s changing tactics. You’ll adjust your game plan based on your observations.

We’ve explored some of the benefits of reading the opponent. As we progress through this book, we’ll dive deeper into the techniques and strategies that will enable you to become a master at profiling your opponents.

The following is an excerpt from Frank upcoming playbook series.

Tennis and Unpredictable Outcomes

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The following is an excerpt from Frank upcoming playbook series.

Unpredictable Outcomes

“Champions expect the unexpected and make the unexpected expected.”

In competitive tennis, the outcome of a match will always be a blend of skill and circumstance. No matter how meticulously you prepare or how much you hope, victory cannot always be guaranteed. Every competitor has tasted both the sweetness of triumph and the bitterness of defeat. The tennis court is an arena of uncertainties, where unexpected twists of fate can sway the course of a match.

1. The Unpredictable

The unpredictable creates the secret drama that true competitors get addicted to. We love to play sports and watch sports because we love the drama of unpredictability by acknowledging that the outcome is influenced by factors such as your opponent’s skill, conditions, luck, and performance. It becomes easier to free yourself from the shackles of unrealistic pressure.

2. Unpredictability Elevates Preparation

Understand that the unpredictable outcome doesn’t negate the importance of preparation and skill development; it elevates their significance. By acknowledging that no player can guarantee victory regardless of their level, you’ll free yourself from the suffocating burden of unreasonable expectations.

3. Focusing On Passion and Progress

Realize that winning is something you can influence but not 100% control. Focusing not solely on the result but on the process and the progress fuels the growth you seek.

4. Embracing Losses

Wins and losses do not solely define the heart of a tennis player but the courage to step onto the court with the wisdom to embrace the ebbs and flows of tournament play. The outcome will always be uncertain, but the pursuit is invaluable.

5. Letting Go of Outcome Desires

Let go of the need to control the outcome. Instead, channel your energy into maintaining your effort, mindset, and commitment to excellence. Ultimately, the process and the struggle tell the true story of your progress.

Tennis Improvement

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Being Improvement Minded

The trouble with not having clear improvement goals is that you can hit balls all day… every day and never achieve results.” Frank Giampaolo

It’s not enough to simply hit balls endlessly without deliberate direction. Champions understand that actual progress requires a clear focus on improvement—a hidden skill that propels them at a faster rate toward their outcome goals.

Successful athletes have a secret: they maintain a deliberate and customized developmental plan. They don’t just practice for the sake of hitting; they know precisely what they’re working on, why they’re doing it, and how it will help them achieve their goals.

To adopt this hidden skill, you’ll set clear, achievable weekly goals. These goals should be based on your tournament performances, where you objectively assess your strengths and weaknesses. After each event, list three target improvements you’ll focus on. Share these topics with your team of coaches.

The process doesn’t stop at setting goals. After planning these improvements, taking actionable steps to reach them is essential. Develop a blueprint for your improvement plan, detailing your strategies. Then, rigorously execute your plan, staying on target until you are satisfied with your progress.

This secret skill transforms practice into a more purposeful endeavor. It ensures that every moment you spend on the court is a step toward becoming a better player. It shifts your focus from quantity to quality, from mindless repetition to intentional progress.

With a clear focus on improvement, you can avoid hitting a plateau where your efforts yield diminishing returns. You may find yourself stuck in a cycle of frustration, endlessly repeating the same mental mistakes without understanding how to correct them.

Consider the journey of a tennis player as a series of milestones. Each improvement goal you set is a step that brings you closer to your ultimate destination. This approach separates those who merely hit balls from those who systematically build their skills.

You can accelerate your journey toward success by understanding the importance of setting clear goals and continuously working to improve. Improvement is not a destination but a perpetual process, and it’s a skill that anyone can cultivate with the right mindset and dedication.

Taking a Mindful Approach to Tennis

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The following post is an excerpt from Frank’s soon to be released Tennis Encyclopedia.

Tennis: The Mindful Approach

“In the long run, educating the body without educating the head and heart doesn’t truly help a competitor.”

In high-performance tennis, the ability to concentrate, remain self-aware, and bounce back from setbacks is invaluable. In this final chapter, we’ll explore how mindfulness enhances these vital aspects of your game, providing you with the mental toughness everyone talks about.

Improved Concentration

Concentration is the cornerstone of competitive excellence. The capacity to focus your attention throughout a single point for approximately 130 points (the average length of a match) is critical. Mindfulness exercises involve training your mind to focus on the here and now. Here’s how:

  • Eliminating External Distractions: Your thoughts often follow your eyes. It’s wise to turn and walk back towards the back fence in between points with positive body language. Focus your eyes on your strings, eliminating the typical habit of being a spectator of other matches when you should be focusing on your battle.
  • Eliminating Mental Noise: As your mindfulness practice deepens, you’ll find it easier to let go of mental clutter, such as doubts or worries about past mistakes or future outcomes. This clarity of thought leads you to more consistent performances.

Enhanced Self-Awareness

Self-awareness is your compass on the tennis court. Mindfulness encourages you to become more attuned to your thoughts and feelings. Following are five tools that surely will help:

  1. Emotional Intelligence: Through mindfulness, you develop the ability to recognize and understand your emotions as they arise. Self-awareness enables you to channel your emotions into productive energy and maintain your composure in challenging situations.
  2. Monitoring Emotions: You’ll find your triggers and unproductive habits by monitoring your emotional reactions. Being self-aware means looking deeper at your emotions, why you feel a certain way, and how your sentiments could turn into negative reactions.
  3. Focus: Correct decision-making is essential to being a top contender, but you can’t do that if you’re distracted. Train yourself to focus for long periods without getting sucked into the typical “unplug” found in competition.
  4. Coping Mechanisms: Unproductive coping skills nurtured in your younger years can prevent you from achieving massive goals. You can opt out of using them by becoming aware of the habit of automatic negative reactions.
  5. Responding Calmly: A calm response is a better choice than reacting emotionally. Confident self-awareness properly guides your response to situations or opponents who might set you off. The better you handle your responses, the better you are to avoid unnecessary conflict.

Tennis and Self-Acceptance

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COMING SOON: The Tennis Encyclopedia

Self-Acceptance

The toughest thing is to look in the mirror and accept yourself.” Frank Giampaolo

In the world of high-performance tennis, the first and perhaps most crucial hidden skill is self-acceptance. It’s the ability to embrace who you are, flaws and all, and to understand that true success begins with an honest assessment of oneself.

The top ATP and WTA stars, the ones we admire and watch on the biggest stages, are imperfect. They don’t possess superhero abilities, nor are they devoid of weaknesses. Instead, they possess a unique understanding of themselves—both their strengths and their limitations. They’ve learned to develop their tennis identity, which allows them to leverage their strengths while working to improve their weaknesses.

In a world that encourages imitation, these champions don’t waste time and energy training to be someone they’re not. They focus, instead, on becoming the best version of themselves. They understand that authenticity is their greatest asset.

So, what does self-acceptance in tennis truly mean? It starts with recognizing your understanding of how your personality and body type shape your style of play. You don’t have to fit in others’ mold; you can create your path to success by being unapologetically yourself—faults and all.

The impact of honest self-acceptance goes beyond just self-assurance. It directly influences your style of play on the court. You’re more likely to play confidently in tournament competition when you embrace who you are and accept your superpowers and limitations.

Consider, for a moment, the various playing styles in tennis: the power hitter, the steady retriever, and the all-court player. Each style is a product of an individual’s unique qualities and abilities. When you truly accept yourself, you can better understand which playing style suits you best and how to optimize it. Start by asking yourself, are you a grinder or disruptor?

Let’s be clear: self-acceptance is not about complacency. It’s not an excuse to ignore areas that need improvement. Instead, it’s a foundation for building your tennis career. By acknowledging your weaknesses, you can work strategically to enhance them, turning them into strengths over time.

While fundamentals are essential, competition is not just about hitting the ball cleanly; it’s also about the battle within yourself. Self-acceptance is your armor in that battle—a powerful tool that can shape your destiny in the world of high-performance tennis.

Tennis- Beyond the Comfort Zone

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COMING SOON: THE TENNIS ENCYCLOPEDIA

Beyond the Comfort Zone

Elena was a naturally gifted athlete. She played years of sports, honing her athleticism. Elena dominated local girls’ 12’s tournaments. Yet, the allure of her comfort zone was too great. As we trained, change wasn’t a welcome topic. We often talked about her talent being confined within the invisible walls she built inside. I tried like crazy to motivate her to venture beyond her familiar boundaries. Elena wouldn’t budge. Her fixed mindset led her down over and over. Now a D-3 college player, her greatest memories are in the girls’ 12’s when she was the Southern California “It girl.” She was the one everyone predicted could go pro. Elena’s mindset serves as a reminder that genuine contenders need much more than strokes. They need the inner strength to face and then overcome the unfamiliar.

2.1 Stepping Beyond Boundaries

Within the competitive game, a stark truth emerges: True contenders aren’t content with staying within the confines of their comfort zone. They understand that the comfort zone while providing solace, is a place where growth remains elusive. Champions aren’t developed in comfort. They’re eager to test their limits and push themselves to evolve.

2.2 The Silent Opponent

Complacency is the silent killer. Recognize that to excel, you need to expand your horizons continually. Beyond the safety of routine lies the lessons where true growth occurs. The decision to venture beyond comfort is a deliberate choice that requires courage, an open mind, and the willingness to embrace the unknown.

2.3 Where Growth Occurs

The most impactful lessons are learned outside the familiar. Contender like Elana, who remained stagnant within their comfort zone, limited their potential. Athletes like you bravely explore uncharted territories and uncover hidden dimensions of strength. The game becomes a stage for competition and a playground for self-discovery and transformation.

Let Elena’s story inspire you to step outside your comfort zone, view challenges not as obstacles but as opportunities for transformation and recognize that only exploring the unfamiliar will reveal your true capabilities.

TENNIS: Changing Fixed Mindsets

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Changing Fixed Mindsets

Last week two top juniors, Steven and Josh were closing out one of their semi-private, two-hour sparring sessions. Josh from Boca Raton, Fl. has a natural inquisitive growth mindset. Steven, from San Francisco, California, possesses a defeatist attitude with his fixed mindset. Steven’s a perfectionist and believes only perfect performances are acceptable.

As Steven was leaving Josh asked me if he could ask me a couple of questions. While I was packing up my gear, Josh asked, “Being solid at crunch time isn’t something that just happens. It’s something you have to develop, right?” “Absolutely,” I replied. “Well, Steven’s doesn’t think he can win the whole Anaheim tournament next weekend, so he says he doesn’t want to go. He’ll probably fake an injury or something. His story is getting old. I don’t understand why he puts so much pressure on himself to win. Even though I want to win every tournament I enter, I’m happy to play well. You know one point at a time.  I hope to learn from my losses by working harder to improve. So by competing, I’m increasing my tennis intelligence and raising my level, right?”

I confirmed Josh’s position and then said, “A growth mindset is about the journey of seeking mastery, instead of viewing losses as catastrophic.  You can see losses as information gathering opportunities, and that buddy is why you’re going to be famous!” Josh smiled, rolled his eyes and said, “Good talk coach…good talk.”

We’ve all had students who have high IQ’s (Intelligence Quotient) but low EQ’s (Emotional Quotient). These athletes are wired to avoid risk while they witness others thrive in competition.

A challenge within The Soft Science of Tennis is to educate these students that their mindset is only their perception of their abilities. After the athlete’s stroke development is said and done, it’s their optimistic or pessimistic attitude that determines competitive success on the tennis court. It is within the parent and coaches job description to develop the power of belief along with a powerful forehand.

Fixed Mindset individuals innately believe that their abilities are inborn and unchangeable.

Growth Mindset individuals trust that their skill sets can and will be developed and improved.

In my observations, fixed mindset students are typically overly sensitive to being wrong. They see failing in competition as catastrophic. If they lose, it’s often something or someone else’s fault, and constructive criticism is taken as a personal insult. Changing this mindset is one of the most challenging roles of a parent or coach.

Recognize the Negative Dialog

Athletes with a pessimistic viewpoint have a running dialog that continually persuades them that they don’t honestly have enough talent, and if they fail, they will be criticized for trying. Many athletes invent an excuse or injury and avoid competition. By doing so, they keep their dignity and ego in check.

The following two solutions will help challenge the fixed mindset worrywart to consider adopting a growth mindset warrior attitude.

  1. Explain that Mindset Is a Choice

Their mental habit is to choose to interpret competition as a serious personal threat. Fixed mindset athletes are typically worried about what could and will go wrong versus what could and will go right. This pessimistic view tears down the will to give 100% effort. Changing from the fixed mindset to the growth mindset is challenging because the athlete has an onslaught of two simultaneous opposing demands. One is the need to suppress their pre-set, negative mental habit and two is to be open to learning to embrace the exact opposite viewpoint.

  • Present the Opposing View

Fixed-mindset athletes need to be reminded that improving and growing requires a metamorphosis into a growth mindset. As these students ramp into tournament mode, be on high alert for their worry, stress, and fears to multiply. They view tournament competition as an event that will expose their shortcomings. It’s our job to present tournament play as a healthy way to assess their development necessary to obtain their goals.

Warning: Responding to and changing their negative banter is emotionally draining even for the well-equipped software developing coach.

Examples of a fixed mindset approach include:

Athlete: “I can’t play, my games not perfect yet. I’m not ready.”

Teacher: “Every time you compete, you learn and improve, and that is the goal.”

Athlete: “If I don’t compete I won’t fail, and I can keep my pride.”

Teacher: “The only true failure is being too scared to try.”

Training the stroke components is only the beginning of a world-class coach’s journey. Having the tools to develop the whole athlete is the end game.

  • Religiously Spot the Positive

On practice days, I recommend applying the laws of attraction. Destroy their pessimistic point of view by asking them to say “yes” after performing a desired stroke or pattern of play. By doing so, it brings to light just how many good strokes they actually hit. This exercise combats their mental habit of focusing on the negative. Success starts by focusing on successes versus failures. It requires changing their doubt in their abilities because their doubt directly undermines their progress.

Once these pessimists see the progress in their abilities, they begin to show positive character traits and critical newborn life skills.

  • Commit to Playing One Game

On match days, fixed mindset “red flags” are everywhere as they try desperately to self-sabotage their performance. By doing so, they’re building their arsenal of excuses for their ego out. “I would have won, but I didn’t have time to train.” “I could have won if I didn’t have this blister on my thumb.”

Also, typical with fixed mindset athletes is to try desperately to back out of competition the morning of the match.

The negotiation tactic I recommend is to ask them to enjoy their pre-match preparation and commit to playing at least one game. If the athlete still wants to default out after one game, that’s fine. Once in the match, they almost always see that the environment is not as threatening as they perceived. The opponent’s not as good as they imagined. So they play a few more games.

Teach my growth mindset philosophy: You have to be present to win. Opportunities and incredible victories present themselves if the athletes are willing to try.

Benefits of Competition for Fixed Mindsets

Many undeniable, positive aspects stem from tournament competition. Advantages include:

  • Competition keeps us honest: It allows us to assess our strokes and movement efficiencies and deficiencies. Exposing our strengths and hiding our weaknesses is an important function of match play.
  • Competition assists us in the art of opponent profiling. Without match play, there’s no dissecting because there are no opponents.
  • Competition exposes our mental fortitude. The ability to stay on Script (your customized game plan), strategy and tactics the match demands.
  • Competition through failure and success helps us develop a massive list of life skills, positive character traits, and a moral compass.
  • Competition aids in developing consistent quality. Winning a 64 draw event requires peak performance for approximately 15 sets.
  • Competition assists us in customizing our future developmental schedules. It’s not the quantity of on-court time; it’s the quality that counts.

Tennis mastery is a process of continuous adaptation and improvement, which is a growth mindset system.

Building Coachable Athletes

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Building Coachable Athletes

During a seminar, I conducted at The Wingate Sports Institute in Tel Aviv, Israel an attending woman’s volleyball coach raised her hand and asked me a great question: How does one discover their true potential? I responded, whether you’re coaching, parenting or playing your chosen sport, realize that you’re only one decision away from going up a level. The choice to avoid risk is what holds most of us back. Even before we attempt an endeavor, fear of the unknown forces most of us to retreat our efforts.

In psychology, it’s called the Spotlight Effect. The brain hesitates when it perceives there’s going to be a problem. We are hardwired to avoid pain and hardship whether it be physical, mental or emotional.  It’s easy to slide back and continue the same old comfortable routines, but “easy” only produces average results. Tennis coaches and players habitually choose to groove another basket of balls versus shifting their focus to the actual needs of the player (cause of losses). Why? It’s far less painful.

What’s holding us back is changing our decisions to taking risks versus routinely avoiding risks. Unpredictability and uncertainty should be seen as positive gatekeepers. I recommend moving towards those feelings versus running away from them. We all have an affinity for our habits. All too often we stay too long with those habits not because they’re productive but because we’re loyal to them.

A new relationship to anything may appear risky, but truth be told, it’s often riskier to remain in an ineffective environment. The real danger lies in stagnation. We instinctively know that around the world, opponents are training smarter, faster and more efficiently. Remaining in our comfort zone will only leave us behind the competition. To our detriment, our brains will try to sabotage any and all attempts at doing anything uncomfortable. I recommend shifting focus from the negative attitude of “what could go wrong” to the positive attitude of “what could go right.”

Whose responsibility is it to teach coach-ability? The typical response from a parent is, “I assume my child’s coaches are teaching life skills…right?” Ask a coach and the response is, “Teaching life skills are the responsibility of the parents. They’re paying me to teach their child strokes.” Ideally, these core values are the result of everyone involved in the athlete’s development, with the parents playing the decisive role. Providing children with the opportunity to take responsibility and instill accountability at an early age is not only an essential skill set for coach-ability but a vital life skill. Communication and independent problem-solving skills are the foundations of coach-ability.

“Two core software skills champions need most are millisecond decision making and problem-solving skills. Both of which, are not commonly found in standardized drilling.”

Is Your Athlete Un-Coachable?

A gifted but un-coachable athlete is every coach’s nightmare. The un-coachable athlete displays the following symptoms: showing up late for practice and lacking personal commitment, passion and real effort. These athletes routinely play the blame game, roll their eyes at constructive feedback and are close-minded to improvement. Un-coachable athletes spend the majority of their training sessions defending their poor choices and creating drama.

“Some athletes cling desperately to bad form because they have spent years developing it.”

Being committed to one’s emotional development isn’t a genetic predisposition, it is a learned behavior nurtured by intelligent parents and coaches. Changing a talented yet un-coachable athlete into a coachable athlete takes great emotional aptitude from both the parents and coach.

Improving an athlete’s software (coach-ability) is often a prerequisite for real learning, quicker growth, and maximizing potential. I believe great coaches and parents have to facilitate coach-ability. They have to convince the athlete that change is good, which is key because learning begins with change and change begins with learning.

Emotional modification begins with the athlete being open and honest enough to develop a humble and respectful attitude, competitive drive, and willingness to learn. It includes gratefulness that a coach cares enough and is willing to tackle the un-pleasantries of the task. Teaching discipline, accountability, and responsibility is a very different job description than teaching a topspin backhand.

Let’s Look at the Characteristics of the Coachable Athlete:

  • Willingness to Accept the Coach’s Philosophy
  • Acceptance of the Necessity for Improvement
  • Desire to be Accountable
  • Optimism and Growth Minded
  • Respectfulness
  • Acceptance of Responsibility
  • Letting Go of Excuses
  • Non-Combative Attitude
  • Open-Minded too Constructive Criticism
  • Eager to Receive Feedback
  • Respectful of the Coach’s Knowledge
  • Selflessness
  • Integrity
  • Courageous

It’s astounding how many young athletes self-sabotage their potential by choosing to ignore the above positive characteristics. Coachable athletes are taught life skills development and religiously held accountable for their morals and ethical conduct by their parents and coaches. Parents and athletes, please look for the above positive characteristics of the coachable athlete in your entourage of coaches as well. You can be sure that quality coaches will be looking for the same positive characteristics in their students and their parents.

In the 1st Edition of The Tennis Parents Bible (published in 2010), I wrote about the importance of positive coaching and parenting. A vital take away was the use of the 5-1 compliment to critique rule (verbal and non-verbal). If athletes are to fire their optimistic responses we have to provide the ammunition. I recommend exposing these qualities in timely condensed sessions. Coaches, the above 14 coachable software skills should be discussed in a creative, interactive information exchange that feels like a chat versus a moral lesson.