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The Importance of Nurturing- Tennis Development Part 2

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Developmental Psychology

 

“It is not nature versus nurture; it is nature and nurture.”

 

Today there’s a movement called Developmental Psychology. These experts research the intertwining relationship between genetic and environmental influences. In regards to the athletes’ environmental influences, the two most important influences I’ve witnessed are their parents and coaches. Teachers and older siblings come in a close second. We influence why athletes think the way they think, why they say what they say and why they do what they do. We are the environmental influences that mold their talents and temperaments.

Developmental Psychology researchers use the word plasticity as they discover deeper implications to how humans respond to nurturing. Following are two negative pre-match preparation pep-talks given to an athlete by his parents. Although both messages lack positive support, it is the way in which the athlete chooses to respond that is interesting.

 

Toxic Pre Match Parental Pep Talk

“Joseph, if you blow it again this weekend, your mother and I are considering pulling the plug on your tennis. I’ll be taking notes and listing all your shortcomings on my iPad. Don’t blow it! Love, Dad.”

 

Uninvolved Parent Pre Match Dialog

 

“Joey, honey… Mommy’s driving into the city to Nordstrom’s half-yearly sale. I have to drop you off at 7:00 a.m. I put lunch money in your bag. Enjoy your little game. I’ll pick you up between 6:00 p.m. and 7:00 p.m. Mommy.”

 

Although the first pep talk is clearly negative and soul-wrenching to read let alone experience, the second pep talk is just as negative. A parent that takes no interest in their child’s passion is showing a lack of support and encouragement. Remember, it’s how the athlete chooses to respond that’s critical. Some athletes work hard to prove their parents right. Some fight all their lives to prove their parents wrong. Which of the following responses would you choose?

Response A-The Athletes folds as they feel the lack of parental confidence, love, and support and shortly quit the game. Proving the parents right.

Response B– The athlete applies plasticity as they use their parent’s horrendous pre-match pep talks to motivate better performance. Proving the parents wrong.

 

Self-Nurturing

I believe that high-performance athletes determined to be the best they can be, have to take nurturing to another level. I call it self-nurturing, and I believe it to be the most important life skill. Self-nurturing is choosing to apply persistence and resiliency in the face of poor outside influences. I’ve witnessed athletes with incredible coaching and parenting who choose to fail, as well as, athletes with absolutely pitiful coaching and parenting who choose to succeed.

If success is in the athlete’s blood, I suggest motivating them to think of the negative people and their words as fuel. Proving someone wrong who doesn’t believe in them is a powerful motivation. It’s self-nurturing at its finest. These individuals make the athlete work smarter, harder, and longer …all for the reward of proving them wrong. Revenge is funny that way.

Improving self-nurturing skills requires us to put aside our ego and listen to others. I’m not suggesting that you agree with 100% of what they’re saying, but rather consider the context of their words and take a look in the mirror and decide if there’s any truth to their comments. Every one of us has aspects of our life that we can improve.

Coaches, parents, and athletes with a little self-reflection, we can all challenge ourselves in the realm of self-nurturing. To me, self-nurturing is a daily self-educating process. Every industry leader I admire is obsessed with self-improvement. They research relentlessly, attend conferences, read, write books, and take online courses to continue to learn and improve. They expose their deficiencies and make them efficiencies.

“The great self-nurturers of our time are growth mindset individuals who see futuristically, something greater that is currently present.”

Match Play Emotional and Mental Solutions- Part 3

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My Verbal & Physical Triggers to Combat Choking

Verbal:______________________________________________________________________________

Physical: _____________________________________________________________________________

 

My Verbal & Physical Triggers for Panicking

Verbal: _____________________________________________________________________________

Physical: ____________________________________________________________________________

 

Energy Flow Management (Check STATEMENT  If Understood)

 

  • I’ll control the playing speed of the match.

 

  • I’ll control the positive energy of the match.

 

  • I’ll inflate my fight to deflate their will to battle.

Emotional Protocols- Part 1

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AUDIO #2: Emotional Protocols

Design and list customized solutions for each of the emotional protocols. Athletes who mentally rehearse their pre-set contingency plans (emotional protocols) report cleaner performances and less match time drama consistently. (Sample Solutions: page 62)

 

My Between Point Rituals

External:

  • ________________________________________________________
  • ________________________________________________________

Internal:

  • _________________________________________________________
  • _________________________________________________________

 

My Changeover Rituals

External: _______________________________________________________

Internal: _______________________________________________________

 

Critical Times to Manage my Adrenaline

  • _________________________________________________________
  • _________________________________________________________