Avoidance versus Exposure

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Avoidance versus Exposure

Although avoidance can lead to temporary relief from anxiety, the avoidance approach typically creates deeper fear in the future. By putting off solutions, athletes unknowingly multiply their anxiety about the topic. Exposure strategies are more proactive. They lead to a way out of the drama while minimizing stress in the future. What helps an athlete improve? Avoidance or exposure? In the world of performance anxieties, the answer is more exposure. But what do most athletes choose? Avoidance.

Sometimes the most profound tip is the simplest. New, correct pathways often change athletic careers. The old saying is, “What you resist persists.” Teaching your youngster that avoidance can increase anxiety isn’t an easy sell, which is why most teaching professionals avoid it. Keeping lessons light decreases the drama of facing real issues, so most tennis pros avoid changing anything serious. If your athlete is hesitant to face their fears, these few tips should help.

Solution: Deciding on a plan and then putting it into action begins with sitting down and talking with your athlete. Start the conversation by acknowledging that you feel anxious about a particular topic and then ask them about their true feelings towards the issue. Let them know you want to support them and enjoy your time together through their tennis journey.

Remind them that it’s no accident that “Unshakeable” athletes are the way they are. It’s not by CHANCE …but by CHOICE. Next, nudge them in the direction that the most crucial component to control in the world of competition isn’t the drama; it’s their reaction to the drama. Then bring to light the reoccurring drama in your athlete’s matches and devise those customized solutions.

Competitive Pressure Triggers

Competitive pressure triggers are some of the most common stressors found in junior tennis. Guiding athletes to step beyond stroke mechanics allows them to look into the face of their match time anxieties. What are the athlete’s fears, worries, and anxieties? Most juniors stress out about a few of these pressure triggers. Identifying your athlete’s stressors starts here in the below top 10 stressors list.

Solution: After identifying the cause of your athlete’s panic, it’s time to ask their coach to help plug in a customized solution. Every topic that causes pressure needs more exposure. The problems lie in that most junior athletes avoid the difficulties they should be focusing on in hopes that they will go away. So, what will help your athlete conquer their performance anxieties, avoidance, or exposure?

Competitive Pressure Triggers

1. Scoring Systems / Certain Stages of The Competition/Start Times
2. Opponent’s Style of Play/Personality
3. Gamesmanship
4. Draw/Seeding
5. Spectators/Cameras
6. Environment/Conditions
7. Court Surface
8. Current Fitness/Energy Levels -Pain Tolerance Threshold
9. Untrustworthy Mechanics
10. Outcome Anxieties.

Any topics that cause the athlete stress should be discussed. Solutions to overcoming the athlete’s pressure riggers should be put into place.