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What the TENNIS PARENTS are Saying

The following post is a quote from a tennis parent from Spain.  The Second Edition of The Tennis Parent’s Bible is soon to be released. Thanks, Frank

“Thank you! Thank you! Thank you! Frank Giampaolo

As parents of a highly competitive junior, we have often struggled to find answers to our daughter’s underperformance, emotional meltdowns and often commented to each other that what we need is a roadmap. 
Not having been in the situation in which we find our daughter but having performed and competed in other fields, we always felt that there must be some secret to it all. 
Finally, we stumbled upon The Tennis Parent’s Bible. A few hours later, we called Frank, flew him to Spain and started our daughter on a customized developmental plan which changed her life and ours! 
It is all there! Frank has been a Godsend to our family and we recommend his book to anyone who will listen! 
Coaches Beware! There will be a whole lot more demanding but educated parents who are eager to help their kids get it right.” 

Jana Waring, Spain

Enjoy the Journey

COMING SOON…The Second Edition of The Tennis Parent’s Bible

The following post is an excerpt from The Tennis Parent’s Bible.  Thanks for visiting, Frank GiampaoloFrank Giampaolo

 

Postponing Happiness

Good memories are your most valuable possessions. Impatience ruins the moment. Arriving at the top of the junior tennis world is a slow walk up a million steps, not a quick elevator ride to the top!

Some parents spend their child’s whole junior career frustrated, anxious and depressed. You will too, if you dwell only on failures, problems and future concerns. Some parents postpone their happiness, gratitude and love.

I’ve often heard parents say “I’ll smile when she finally wins one!”

Learn to enjoy the journey- you and your child will be better for it!

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What the Experts are Saying…

The following post is a testimonial for second edition of The Tennis Parent’s Bible soon to be released! Thanks for visiting, Frank

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“I have been involved with tennis for 60 years and I have witnessed the development of the modern game. Frank has put together the most complete manual for Parents, coaches and players. I learned a lot from this book. It’s a must for every Parent and Coach who want to make the least amount of mistakes.”

Carlos A. Kirmayr, Centro De Treinamento Kirmayr, Brasil

 

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What the Experts are Saying…

The following quote is an industry testimonial for Frank’s soon to be released the Second Edition of The Tennis Parent’s Bible. Thanks for visiting, Frank Frank Giampaolo

 

“Frank’s Tennis Bible for Parent’s is exactly that, a complete guide to every factor you might want to consider in helping your tennis playing child have the best possible outcomes. Most of the best outcomes will be the life lessons that are learned along the way, and this work covers that. Not every player will be a pro, and this book accounts for the different paths players may take. Coach Giampaolo also does an expert job creating scenarios in which players can get stuck in a certain mindset, showing different ways to approach playing the game. His solutions are spot on. Players and coaches will also be blessed in reading this work.”

Bill Patton

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Avoid Negative Pre-Match Communication

The following post is an excerpt from soon to be released second edition of The Tennis Parent’s Bible.  Thanks for visiting, Frank Giampaolo

PRE-MATCH COMMUNICATIONFrank Giampaolo

Successful coaches and perceptive parents know that nonverbal communication is the single most powerful form of communication. People don’t need to say anything for their stress, nervousness, and anxiety to be felt and adopted by others. Before matches, smart players are trying to morph into their competitive “performance goal” state of mind. Parents, if you feel that a spouse or coach is unknowingly sabotaging your child’s pre-match positive mind set, ask them to please read this section with you. The following section lists  inappropriate match-day topics for both coaches and parents.

“Negative thoughts only go away once they’re replaced by positive thoughts.”

 

Inappropriate Pre-Match Communication 

Negative: Discussing the need for a perfect performance.

Negative: Explaining why today’s match is the most important of your career.

Negative: Describing the consequences of the outcome, such as the player’s spot in the team’s lineup, the team’s position in the overall league rankings, or the individual’s position in the overall rankings.

Negative: Detailing how much time or money has been spent on their career.

Negative: Informing your child that “the opponents ranked 98 spots ahead of us.”

Negative: Informing your child that “She’s top 3 in the nation and just won the Super Nationals and is essentially unbeatable.

Negative: Reminding them that today’s match will be a huge win for us.

Negative: Listing all the good players the opponent has already beaten.

Negative: Talking about what others will say “if you win or if you lose.”

Negative: Hinting that “If you win your ranking will skyrocket into the top 20 . . . if you don’t blow it.”

Negative: Giving last-minute negative advice such as reminding your athlete about all their weaknesses that still needs to be corrected.

Parents and coaches, I’d like to offer this reminder once again, please don’t tell your junior athlete to suppress a harmful thought, such as reminding them not to double fault. The human brain doesn’t work that way. The more they try to block it out, the larger it looms. Instead, ask them to simply replace the negative thought with a useful, positive proactive thought and the negative thought dies out quietly. Such as “Here we go, toss to my spot and here comes a huge big kick serve.”

 

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Nurturing a Customized Developmental Plan

 

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Here what the industry experts are saying:

“The Tennis Parents Bible should be mandatory reading (with an annual rotating online quiz) that’s required for ALL PARENTS for their children to play in USTA events! Seriously. If parent training was required, it could change this sport in a powerful way for generations!”

 

Joe Dinoffer
President, Oncourt Offcourt, Ltd.
USPTA and PTR Master Professional

 

NURTURING A DELIBERATE CUSTOMIZED PLAN

 

“Junior tennis champions are born from great sacrifice.
They are never the result of selfish parents.”

 

Outstanding parents are outstanding teachers. The parent is the most important adult figure that will define and shape a child. An experienced coach may assist in developing technical tools such as a topspin backhand. A trainer may assist in developing core strength. But, please never underestimate the power of your child’s greatest teacher…you!

The job description of a tennis parent is to provide a safe and loving environment. A tennis parent nurtures the physical, mental, emotional and spiritual growth of the child.  A gifted athlete with the desire, work ethic and character of a champion will never achieve his or her full potential without the loving support of a tennis parent/manager.

 

“A junior competitor without a tennis educated parent is like a ship without a rudder.”

 

Terrific children, wonderful adults and tennis champions aren’t born, they are developed. It’s not simply heredity. It’s an organized plan. No one becomes extraordinary on their own. “It takes a Village” is the age old saying. As you raise athletic royalty, your village will be your entourage of coaches, hitters, mental/emotional trainers, off-court tennis specific experts, physical therapists and sports medicine doctors.

The Williams sisters are an actual example of a parent with a vision.  The story goes: Richard Williams planned to have more children for the sole purpose of developing them into professional tennis players. Wayne Bryan also had a plan with his twin boys, the Bryan brothers. Without an actual plan, you’ll never know your child’s true potential.

Preparing an organizational blue print will save you thousands of dollars annually. It will also save your child thousands of wasted, unproductive hours, sweat and tears.

Your child was born with a unique genetic predisposition and is pre-wired with a specific brain and body type. Consider it carefully as you and your athlete’s coaches (your entourage) nurture your child’s talent and identify their genetic predisposition.  Individual brain and body type play a very influential role at all levels of the game (not to mention the lifelong benefits as well.)  Let’s have some fun right off the bat and jump into applying personality profiling.

So, what’s the key to maximizing success in the shortest period of time? Is it to purchase the latest equipment? Maybe it’s hiring a great local pro? What if I said… neither.

 

“The first and most important tool you will ever apply is discovering your child’s personality and brain design.”

 

Let’s look at the typical old school tennis teaching scenario. The local pro Jose Gonzales came to the United States from Chile. He was a terrific collegiate player earning a full scholarship to Virginia Commonwealth. Jose even played a few ATP pro challenger events. He found success by being extremely patient. He had a natural gift with his quick feet and he enjoyed running. He took delight in being a steady counter puncher 15 feet behind the baseline. Jose’s shot tolerance was a 20-ball rally!

 

 

As a teaching professional, he demands that each of his students abide by his playing style, disciplines and logic. Your thinking, boy that guy sounds pretty experienced, let’s hire him as our child’s coach. So, is this the right mentor for your child?

The answer is, not likely. Why? Because Jose demands that each student plays his style. The style of tennis that your child needs in order to thrive is based on his or hers own unique design. (AKA: brain and body type.)

 

“Asking your child to play tennis in a style that opposes their skill sets, beliefs and temperament is a recipe for disaster. This is especially true at the beginning levels of player development and is a major factor as to why so many of them leave this great game.”

 

One of the quickest ways to ensure that your child will quit the sport is to demand that they play a style that opposes their brain and body type. Understanding brain and body types is one of the first steps to becoming a world class parent and/or coach. Hold on tight because I am about to rock your world.

 

What the Experts are Saying…

Coming Soon the Second Edition of the  The Tennis Parent’s Bible.  Thanks for visiting, Frank Giampaolo

Frank Giampaolo“The Tennis Parents Bible should be mandatory reading (with an annual rotating online quiz) that’s required for ALL PARENTS for their children to play in USTA events! Seriously. If parent training was required, it could change this sport in a powerful way for generations!”
Joe Dinoffer
President, Oncourt Offcourt, Ltd.
USPTA and PTR Master Professional

 

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What the Experts Are Saying

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“A first-class book from a first-class coach.

Frank is an encyclopedia of tennis knowledge, has extraordinary talents to share and is a model of professionalism. When all of these components come together, an excellent book such as the Tennis Parents Bible appears.

By educating yourself, your children will have better results.

This book is a must read for parents to understand how to educate themselves and to appreciate the extensive process they, their children and their coaches are undergoing while their children are developing their tennis skills.”

Shaul Zohar, Manager, Kiryat Shmona Israel Tennis Center

 

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Dealing with Tennis Cheaters

The following post is an excerpt from the second edition of The Tennis Parent’s Bible coming soon!

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QUESTION: Why does my daughter become irrational when cheated?

 

Frank: The human brain simply can’t stand being treated unfairly. It’s that resentment of injustice which triggers the downward spiral. Youngsters feel they deserve a fair chance of any reward being offered and with that taken away … so goes their rational decision making abilities.

How to handle unjust situations is not a tennis issue, it’s a learned life skill. When a tennis opponent is repeatedly cheating and provoking your athlete, a full-blown meltdown is often the result. Biochemical reactions in the brain distort rational reasoning and the fight or flight syndrome overtakes the situation. That is, unless your athlete has been trained to insert the correct protocol- which is the solution to the problem.

Taking back control begins by understanding Channel Capacity- a term neuroscience has assigned to the brain’s inability to process multiple forms of important information at one time.  A common example of channel capacity is texting and driving.

“The human brain cannot solve two complicated tasks simultaneously.”

On-court, the creative line caller systematically pulls your athlete away from the present (performance state of mind) and into the past or future (outcome state of mind.) Understanding this phenomenon is key to salvaging seemingly catastrophic matches.

So instead of little Zack focusing on his performance goals such as “ I’m going to serve to the backhand, hit high and heavy ground-strokes and crush short balls.”, Zack finds himself stuck in the wrong thought process. He is thinking “This guy is such a punk!!! I can’t lose to such a cheater, what will my friends say? I can’t believe I lost the last set, he’s ranked 57 spots below me…” The creative line caller has now got Zack right where he wants him-mentally far away from his performance goals.

If your athlete has issues playing against cheaters, ignoring the issue and hoping it will go away is not in their best interest. I recommend practicing their pre-set protocol during practice sessions to reinforce their match tough confidence. Arrange a few practice matches each week with the opponent being allowed to call any close ball out. Learning to deal with adversity and staying on the correct side of your brain under duress is a skill set that must be rehearsed.

“Tennis, like life, is not fair…but remember, sometimes it’s not fair in your favor.”

 

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What the Experts Are Saying…

The following is a quote from Shaul Zohar about the Second Edition Tennis Parent’s Bible- Coming Soon!

 

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“A first-class book from a first-class coach.

Frank is an encyclopedia of tennis knowledge, has extraordinary talents to share and a model of professionalism. When all of these components come together, an excellent book such as the Tennis Parents Bible appears.

This is a must read for all parents, players and coaches to understand everything related to this sport we love.”

Shaul Zohar, Manager, Kiryat Shmona Israel Tennis Center

 

Contact: Frank Giampaolo
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